Trigger Question #59:
Because you were once a tiny tot, I know you heard at least one grown-up say, “Don’t do as I do. Do as I say.”
And if you have a job, then you have heard someone in power say, “Don’t do as…” Actually, they would never say that. They expect you to know that you should be very careful if you decide to do as they do. Even though they know, and you know, that they are leading by example. They lead through what they do and through what they don’t do. Not just through what they say and don’t say.
And a manager? Yes, the same applies.
The point, obviously, is that if you are in a position of power, people will take their cue from you. I know you know that.
But did you know that people also take their cue from your mood? People will unwittingly adopt your mood, good, bad, or indifferent. This means that, as a leader and a manager, you should never ignore the power of your mood.
Or the power of your attitude.
Is there a difference between mood and attitude? Yes, here’s the difference that matters at work. Mood is fickle and fluctuates; attitude lasts longer and is more stable. This warns us that mood, in being unpredictable, can be much more destructive. We can adapt to the boss’ attitude because we get used to it and know where we stand. But moodiness… well, enough said.
Yes, you can use your mood, like your attitude, as a leadership tool. If you know how to wield it with intent. But be careful. Moodiness is a flaw that leaders worth their lead never display at work.
And no, I’m not suggesting you adopt an upbeat mood, rose-tinting and high-fiving all day long. Just be authentic while keeping your mood swings in check.
However, if your authentic self is crotchety, then maybe you should fake a happy mood now and then.
Welcome to my side of the nonsense divide.
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Quote of the Moment:
“Never play the moody blues at work. Your boss will tell you to take your shitty attitude and go.” The Chief Nonsense Officer.
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