Trigger Question #101:
Whether or not you make annual resolutions, it is always a good idea to consider your goals. And any day is always a good time of year to do so. So, let me ask you, do you know what your goals are for?
Maybe it will help if I ask it differently. Do you know what your goals are FOR?
We set goals because we think we know what outcomes we want. We think we must do “this” because we want “that.”
Yet, we don’t always think deeply about why we want what we want. Not deep enough to get clear on what we want it FOR. What we will do with it once we have it. Or what we will be once we have reached it.
Let’s assume your goal is to lose weight. Why do you want to lose weight? FOR what reason? To be lighter? Or to be healthier?
If your goal is FOR weight reasons because you don’t want to feel so heavy, then by all means, focus on losing some weight. But if your goal is FOR health reasons, then a focus on weight is too narrow. If you focus on health, you already know that weighing less is only one way to become healthier.
Or consider this example. Your goal is to make more money this year. But why? What is the extra money FOR? If you focus on the money, you might not know when enough is enough. But if you focus on the FOR, you might find that money is only one way of getting to that FOR.
Don’t make the mistake of focusing on your goals at the expense of the outcomes you want. Keep your eye on the outcome and you will know when to revise your goals.
And when should you revise your goals? No, not annually.
When they no longer serve your FOR.
Welcome to my side of the nonsense divide.
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