Who Had You Covered, but Got Your Back Up?

Trigger Question #17

“Don’t stand so close to me!”

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Imagine you are cold and miserable at work. What do you do to warm up?

Have you watched a carton of kittens or a pouch of puppies cuddling to keep warm? I’m sure you have. (I’m guessing you steer away from a huddle of humans, even when you are cold at work.)

Now imagine a prickle of porcupines trying to cuddle. Makes you think, doesn’t it?

German philosopher Arthur Schopenhauer once asked his readers to imagine porcupines huddling together for warmth. As they move closer, their quills force them apart. But then the cold drives them closer. And then their quills force them apart. Back and forth.

As Schopenhauer explained, they are at the mercy of their discomforts until they find that space that maximizes warmth and minimizes pain. (Read that again. At the mercy of their discomforts; maximizing warmth; minimizing pain.)

Now consider this. It’s quite possible that the person you think is causing you pain is only trying to keep you warm. Even if that person is a co-worker.

So don’t keep your relationships at the mercy of your discomforts. Find that space that maximizes warmth and minimizes pain.

Welcome to my side of the nonsense divide.

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