How do you argue? Do you try to convince the other person that you are right? Or do you aim to show them they are wrong?

Hang on, there is a difference. If you aim to prove how right you are, then you will be impatient to speak, ignore what is said to you and only hear yourself clearly. You will learn nothing more than you have already convinced yourself that you know.

On the other hand, if you aim to convince them that they are wrong, then you will note carefully what they say. You will listen for flaws in their argument, weigh their weak points, and scrutinize their strong points. In other words, you will learn a lot.

When you focus on your points, you might win the argument but gain little. When you focus on their points, you might lose, but you will be so much wiser.

Welcome to my side of the nonsense divide